Sunday, December 19, 2010

I'm New!

Ever since I got married about 6 1/2 months ago, I have been discovering so many things about God's gift of marriage - the Good, the GREAT, and the Challenging.  I was given many wise words of advice before I decided to tie the knot, but even still - every time I go through a new challenge, I think, "I wonder if anyone else has faced this same challenge before...who is that person so I can ask them what to do?"

A wise man once said:
What has been is what will be,
and what has been done is what will be done,
and there is nothing new under the sun.
 (Ecclesiastes 1:9 ESV) 

The question:
If there is nothing new under the sun, why do I not feel prepared for this?!?! 

The answers: 
1. It's not possible for anyone to tell you everything you should expect to face in becoming a help meet to a man. 
2. Part of the process of new marriage is working out the kinks on your own.

My goal is to give you some helpful hints that I came to discover in my own life through talking with God, talking with others, reading the Bible and other books, screaming, cooking, crying, sitting alone in silence, driving, and many other ways.  The point is, I eventually figured it out. And you will too. But maybe I can help you figure it out a little quicker.

Older women ... are to teach what is good, and so train the young women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled, pure, working at home, kind, and submissive to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be reviled. 
(Titus 2:3-5 ESV)

This verse is the focus of this blog. I want this to be a place where the more experienced women can have an opportunity to impart wisdom on us newbies!

I invite everyone to leave their comments here.  Whether you're married or not, we all have a lot to learn about being a wife.  Ask questions if you have them. Give direction if you can.

NOTE: This is by no means an opportunity for husband bashing. Someone just told me tonight: "Being a wife is all about finding ways to build up our husband."  So let's start building!


  1. Good idea to start this! I think the two most important things I've learned so far is that men need to feel respected by their wives. They want to feel needed and admired and to know that you look to them to be the leader of your family. The other thing is that the closer you are to God as individuals and as a couple, the stronger your relationship will be. Looking forward to hearing more words of wisdom from women that have more experience under their belt! -Diana Y